For years I had no idea that Steven Crowder and Dave Rubin were different people. I found out when one of them got divorced from a woman and I was so confused cause I was sure that guy was gay.

Flirting can mean a lot of different things and it can be taken differently by different parties, it’s going to be tough for anyone here to diagnose it beyond the fact that you don’t seem to feel comfortable with it. That’s what’s important.

For future reference:

If you find out something about your partner/relationship that doesn’t comport with your original understanding, and you’re not OK with it, you need to re-evaluate the whole relationship.

Whether that’s infidelity, lifestyle changes, identity changes, secrets, lies, values, kinks, etc… You need to either leave or figure out some ground rules you can both live with.

Best of luck.