I mean I feel like that’s not really my business to tell. Just like I wouldn’t tell my family if my son had a hammeroid. Yeah its a lie of omission, but its just kind of not my business to share with anyone.
But on the other hand if they’re stupid wealthy they probably obtained that wealth through the exploitation of workers and I would tell everyone including my extended family that my child is a piece of garbage and I raised them better.
I like to wear nice perfume so I gravitate towards unscented deodorant and I swear by “Dead Down Wind” they usually make products to mask your scent for hunting, but recently started to make deodorant and it works REALLY well. It survives my long gym sessions, so it holds up. But I also have sensitive skin so I don’t use it daily. My go to daily is Brickell’s unscented.
For bodywash I like to use bar soap, Shea Moisture is usually the brand I gravitate to since I can find it in most stores, and I like their lotion as well because it is unscented.
Full disclosure, I don’t have dark skin, but I have tattoos covering most of my skin on my body and haven’t noticed any sort of whitecasting when using these products. Well except the deodorant, but I kinda expect that from deodorant that isn’t the gel kind.
It seems obvious now, but it took me too long to realize I don’t have issues focusing on things, I just have a hard time focusing on things I’m not interested in. I was a terrible student in grade school and took some time off after I graduated before going to university. That time away allowed me to mature and gain the discipline I needed to get through the stuff I wasn’t interested in. I then breezed through my major because I loved it.
Don’t spend as much energy on trying to improve the things that you’re bad at. Figure out your strengths and lean into them.
If you have ADHD, get medicated. While it’s no replacement for good habits, it makes starting those good habits SO much easier. I wish I had started taking it 15 years sooner.
If you also have ASD, a lot of people aren’t going to understand you. The way you view the world is different. Be kind and be true to yourself and you’ll meet lots of people who appreciate your difference.
Spending time being doing nothing actually helps your focus later, boredom is good for you and actually promotes creativity.
Don’t multitask, you’ll just end up half-assing every task.
If you have the means, see a psychologist who specializes working with people who are neurodivergent. It will greatly improve your communication skills. If you’re in a serious relationship, get couples counseling even if things are going great. This will help you break down any communication barriers before they have the opportunity to become resentment.
I could keep adding to this list, but having an exercise routine is probably one of the best things I did to improve my focus. Plus I also get the long term health benefits of strength training.
Since no one else mentioned it. Stress, stress can lead to both of these things. Premature greying and hair loss. Thankfully the hair loss is usually temporary if it is caused by stress, although the greying is not.
So if you lead a pretty stressful life. Find some ways to relax and try to get enough sleep.
I started losing hair in clumps in my mid to late 20’s. Then had a major life event that was the peak of that stressful point in my life and now a little over a year later most of my hair has grown back. The grey is all still there, but my hair grew back.
Genetics are often the cause of hair loss, but don’t discount stress.
Don’t feel ashamed for being attracted to older men. But a word of caution, if you’re in your 20’s, you’ll probably attract older men for the wrong reasons. This was my experience when I was in my 20’s. The people I attracted were just as immature as I was just with way more baggage. As I got older myself I found that to be less and less the case. The divide between 35 and 45 isn’t as big as 25 and 35 as far as life experience goes.
Also don’t give anyone the time of day who doesn’t support you. I don’t mean surround yourself with sycophants, because that’s not support either. Good friends are going to build you up, but also call you out if you’re being dumb. This person doesn’t sound like a good friend.
Like what @cheese_greater@lemmy.world said:
Learn to be really good at being by yourself. Spending some time alone will be really good for you if you view it as a time for self love and a time to work on yourself. Adulthood can be very lonely at times, and it only gets worse as you get older, so being comfortable with being alone can help you find balance and not feel that loneliness as you age.