Why or why not?

  • Instigate@aussie.zone
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    11 hours ago

    That depends - am I only physically attracted to them? The answer is no, whether or not they’re trans. Am I also attracted to their personality? Then yes, whether or not they’re trans.

    It helps that I’m bi.

    • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      9 hours ago

      Let’s say the attraction is whatever that means for you - I usually have emotional and romantic interest in someone as the main driver of pursuing a relationship, and physical attraction is an important but secondary aspect - so when I say attracted I do mean that openly in whatever way you would normally feel attracted to someone.

      Is your distinction relevant because you are asexual (or demisexual) but allo- or pan- romantic?

      Being bisexual does help - I am bi as well, so it can be hard sometimes to imagine being straight - but I do think I understand the phenomenology of straightness well enough (it’s not hard for me to connect with what it’s like to not be attracted to something, and with changes in hormones I even experienced dramatic shifts in my attraction based on gendered traits).