Why or why not?

  • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
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    10 hours ago

    Probably not, because ultimately, I want to play with genitals that are different from mine.

    I don’t expect everyone to agree, and it’s perfectly okay for someone to have an alternative preference, and they are welcome to indulge it, but that’s just mine.

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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        9 hours ago

        probably because only a minority are post-op

        fuzzy unreliable memory of potentially unreliable numbers, but I had read over half of trans women want a vagina, but only around 12% actually have one - those numbers are probably wrong, but the overall point stands that by the numbers most trans women are likely to have a female penis.

        The assumption that having a penis is essential to being a trans woman is clearly wrong, though. Most of us want a vagina, and it would be nice if access to healthcare was a priority

        currently the goal seems to be to make it as hard as possible for trans people to live as their gender, which is weirdly anti-assimilationist, you would think giving a trans woman a vagina would be entirely compatible with the conservative anxieties about trans people - the better access and care we receive, the fewer visibly trans people exist … it is by denying us the means of assimilation to cis norms that we become social “problems”, which benefits no one.

        • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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          9 hours ago

          Well, I guess anal penetration is an option with pre-op women, assuming she is comfortable and knows how to facilitate that without pain or injury (I never fully figured it out myself, part of why having a vagina was important to me).