my (18f) sister (13f) has severe ocd and depression [is seeing a professional, will take meds]. she is constantly venting to me, walking in when i’m trying to do something private, etc. when i dont respond to her text right away, she tells me i hate her and she “knows i don’t care abt her”.
she constantly wants connections with others, but when they don’t give her exactly what she wants 24/7, she says she hates them and never wants to speak to them again.
i love her but idk how to help.
I don’t have advice but that does just sound like being 13. It’s a rough time. If you can see, or if she asks for, something actionable that would help (like “my homework is really stressing me out, can you help me”) by all means do it. But for me I think I just learnt coping mechanisms the hard way as I grew up. Most people change a lot in the ensuing years after 13, usually for the better. I’m sorry your sister is going through that.
One thing that does come to mind is to check if there’s any external issues that are causing her to feel so bad. There often are. You might be able to learn something by talking to her more?