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Cake day: December 27th, 2025

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  • There’s different levels of ‘knowing.’ Talk to the average american, whether democrat or republican, and they’ll happily spew out trite sayings: “all politicians are crooked,” “those rich fucks don’t know what it’s like down here,” or “the banks keep going up while my income’s going down,” ad nauseam. Yet, somehow, in every election, the person they are voting for somehow isn’t a part of that, or is way better than ‘the other guy.’

    I think people have realized that the government rarely concerns itself with them, but the propaganda and social coercion into going along with the system is so incredibly strong, that people place a lot of different beliefs in their head box, and keep it them all separated and simply follow the herd.




  • If you’re going to tell people to look into the lens of romantic*/companionate (and all the other ones you didn’t mention: nonlove/liking/infatuation/empty love/fatuous love/consummate love) you should at least give them some starting points.

    • Triangle theory of love: Robert Sternberg (1987, 2006)
    • Brain regions; attachment/commitment vs sexual desire: Diamond (2004), Aron et al. (2005), Xu e al. (2011)
    • Lust/attraction/attachment, dopamine/serotonin influences: Helen Fisher (2006), Aron et al. (2008),
    • More influence of dopamine/serotonin: Ackerman (1994, p. 165)
    • Critiques of simplifying love: Fehr (2006)
    • Some more neurotransmitters and hormones: Macdonald & Macdonald (2010), Hill et al. (2009), Gouin et al. (2010), Ditzen et al. (2009), Theodoridou et al. (2009)
    • Loves sternberg didn’t consider: Berscheid (2010), John alan lee (1988),
    • Decreases in romantic love: sprecher & regan (1998), Tucker & aron (1993), Gupta & Singh (1982) and the followup D. Myers (1993), Walster & Walster (1978), Abhmetoglu et al (2010), Call et al. (1995), Klussman (2002)
    • Non-decreases in love: Acevedo et al. (2011),

    Personally, I would really, really recommend the textbook Intimate Relationships by Rowland S. Miller to anyone who is curious about the subject. I had to go pull my edition off of the bookshelf to quickly throw out all the references above.

    *because passionate love isn’t the category. The proposed idea was the triangle theory of intimacy, passion, and commitment, which led to the eight above categories----