I wasn’t directly involved in these situations but I have heard 2 different close secondhand stories where non English was banned. because to the ears of English - speaking people it sounded like the non English were using slurs or talking about certain English speakers in a way that would be considered inappropriate.

In both cases the complaints were made by black people. I think there can be complexity here

• in a lot of languages the normal word for black sounds like the n-word in English. It really sticks out even if some is saying “can you pass me the black marker” or other innocent and non hostile comment
• in a lot of languages there are using words that do in fact have racist overtones in that language. But the specific speakers in question may not care, may be racist, or may have insufficiently interrogated their use.
• Or frankly the sense that racialized people were being talked about covertly could have been correct.
• When it’s people just complaining that they can’t what conversations are happening around them (that they are not involved in) or white people feeling that they are being persecuted I have very little sympathy.

Even in a complex situation the banning of languages is unlikely the correct choice. Ideally workers could have a conversation to decide on etiquette.

A doctor told me that if you aren’t asleep after 20 mins, you should get out of bed and do something quiet til you are tired. So you learn to associate being in bed with sleep.

Or as someone else told me: beds are for sleeping, sex and dying.

You’re missing a major incentive. Over the course of several decades, laws prohibiting discriminatory behavior internally and externally were passed. At the same time, unions became less militant and less democratic. So workers try to turn to the new laws to stand up for themselves. Especially middle- and upper- sections because they have the independent resources and systemic support.

The various waves of HR interventions are defenses against the above. Polices, trainings, disciplines, hiring practices, codes of conduct etc. Which are implemented in ways that are unserious, under-resourced, lots of loopsholes, designed to breed resentment, etc. But enough that if there is a problem, the boss can say “we did everything we could”. So any legal consequences will be eliminated or reduced.

Rainbow capitalism is a slightly different situation but in context of the above. After the western AIDS crisis settled down, LGBTQ+ leadership was entirely seized by wealthy people who were the least dead and least traumatized of everyone. They took advantage of work done by others to benefit their own individual positions.

It’s all in the context of capitalism being inherently about exploitation. There is no such thing as a woke corporation. it can’t happen.

I remember talking about this with friends 10+ years ago. Haven’t noticed it or heard anyone else mention it since, but I don’t know why.

I am not you in any respect. Just recycling advice I’ve seen in many similar threads. Which is that you might do better with a personal touch because you wont get through the resume robots. If you can get yourself in socially with people who are in a position to help you out. So you need to figure out who those people are, specifically (like by looking on linkedin). And how to get into the mix with them. Which could be by going to the right bars, contributing to the right projects, joining the right improv club etc.

and maybe check programming.dev

If no one will hire me I thought of trying to wing it myself and put fliers up offering tech support.

I’ve actually noticed in the past year or so, it seems the world is going back to fliers. Just walking around I am seeing posters for stuff like it’s 2011. There are people putting up fliers for tech support, among other stuff. If they are successful, I have no clue. I think it has to do with the enshittification of social media. Honestly it might be worth trying especially if you set a time/money budget. Like spend $30 and 10 hours; see what happens. But maybe facebook ads? In addition.

You must’ve noticed the same thing in OP that I did:

my sister, girlfriend and some friends irl

Assuming there are both women and men around you that you could be annoying, its worth thinking about why these little assertions of dominance only target a certain group.

You could experiment with intentionally annoying men… And dont just pick men who are somehow subordinate to you.

I think it has t do with neuroplasticity.

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