• folaht@lemmy.ml
    2·
    7 hours ago

    Autism + male

    It’s like trying to find water deep in the desert.
    You’ll be lucky to find a mirage.
    But most of the time you’ll find others also trying to find water.

  • Justathroughdaway@lemmy.world
    7·
    22 hours ago

    ASPD here, like others with my condition I find it hard to have a relationship that goes on for more then a few weeks. I get bored of people really easily and I can’t empathize with anyone else.

  • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    9·
    1 day ago

    Unfortunately I am not really meant for the dating world. I have absolutely never had a libido, could never feel sexual pleasure, have extreme social anxiety, and am also too mentally unstable for people to be dealing with me all of the time. Growing up was sure odd to see people start pairing up with one another begining in my pre-teen years. At that time in my life I was too busy chanting insult words repeatedly to myself walking around the halls at school to really speak to other people too much.

    Here I am as a full fledged adult now in my 30s. At least I’ve managed to stay employed so far with a decent career. But I’ve been causing issues at my job due to my instability that may threaten that.

    But dating has never been in the cards for me. I’ve never really done it and will definitely die alone. It’s weird because at least a part of me is still human and still needs human connection.

    sigh

    Idk. Good luck out there, OP. What flavor of issues are causing you to struggle with it?

  • BussyGyatt@feddit.orgEnglish
    13·
    1 day ago

    Everytime I think I’m doing well enough to “put myself out there” I crash out again. I think I’ll probably die alone.

  • Routhinator@startrek.websiteEnglish
    19·
    1 day ago

    I never thought I would have a healthy relationship with ASD+ADHD. I found someone who is my equal and we have an extremely fulfilling relationship that’s full of both amazing fun moments and frustrating ones, but we always understand each other. Which helps with our son as well, as he’s a carbon copy of us.

    • DacoTaco@lemmy.world
      5·
      1 day ago

      This is awesome and is how i feel about my current relationship. We are only a few months in but it just feels right. We both have asd and adhd and she has a few extras. We both take meds to help manage it but we just… Understand each other.

      Obviously it can fail, but we sure hope it doesnt.

      Imo, a relationship with a mental disorder needs an understanding of the disorders of both parties. Both people having asd is kinda what i needed in my life as we understand eachother and our own quirks and know what helps or how to deal with them

  • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
    91·
    1 day ago

    The mixture of the racing thoughts that come with hyperactivity plus my own attachment issues derived from a difficult and physically abusive childhood have made me someone who gets easily triggered by even a semblance of disregard or lack of kindness, and then I start yelling… I’ve had to consciously change my understanding of the world and I’m still trying to properly use the mental tools required to stop/slow the negative thoughts that end in me getting upset. The one lady I fell for and dated years before I met my now wife broke up with me because of my anger and proclivity for starting arguments, after all. Outside of relationships, I used to pick fights at the slightest indication of perceived danger/disrespect, something I had to get out of my system as well to live in society. In my defense, being in the FFL for 5 years was not helpful in trying to push down/recalibrate my aggression. But, with my wife’s help, I’ve managed to reach a ‘healthy’ and stable point in my life, and I’m sharing this today so y’all don’t lose hope. 🙏❤️

    • Øπ3ŕ@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      3·
      16 hours ago

      You know? Thank you. I found a lot in there to mull over, and it seems to lead toward clarity —so, that’s a bonus! 🙇🏼‍♂️✊🏼